Post by account_disabled on Feb 21, 2018 13:28:11 GMT 7
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That truth is supported by a wealth of recent research about children. Scientists are discovering that when kids get overpraised — when their parents affirm successes out of all proportion to reality — the child inevitably pays for it. Consider a few everyday examples:
“Yeah, you struck out. But the pitcher cheated!” to a kid struggling to figure out which end of the bat to hold.
“You made an A on the test! You’re the smartest kid at school!” to a child who knows exactly where she stands on her class’s intelligence spectrum — and it isn’t at the top.
“You deserve to be the lead in the play!” to a child who is in awe of the acting ability of classmates who got the lead roles.
When kids get overpraised, they know at some level that the praise isn't based on reality. So they develop a fear of taking risks and of failing. They have not yet developed the capacity to think, I know what I’m capable of and what to do when I come to a situation beyond my capability. Instead, they overflow with anxiety and shame, and often stop trying at all.
Please help.
Thanks!
I didn't find the right solution from the Internet.
References:
www.focuhfhsonthefamily.com/parenting/schoolage-children/constructive-praise
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That truth is supported by a wealth of recent research about children. Scientists are discovering that when kids get overpraised — when their parents affirm successes out of all proportion to reality — the child inevitably pays for it. Consider a few everyday examples:
“Yeah, you struck out. But the pitcher cheated!” to a kid struggling to figure out which end of the bat to hold.
“You made an A on the test! You’re the smartest kid at school!” to a child who knows exactly where she stands on her class’s intelligence spectrum — and it isn’t at the top.
“You deserve to be the lead in the play!” to a child who is in awe of the acting ability of classmates who got the lead roles.
When kids get overpraised, they know at some level that the praise isn't based on reality. So they develop a fear of taking risks and of failing. They have not yet developed the capacity to think, I know what I’m capable of and what to do when I come to a situation beyond my capability. Instead, they overflow with anxiety and shame, and often stop trying at all.
Please help.
Thanks!
I didn't find the right solution from the Internet.
References:
www.focuhfhsonthefamily.com/parenting/schoolage-children/constructive-praise
Company Promotional examples